My two small gems are not so small any longer. They are individuating and moving into their own, separate lives. They no longer require constant monitoring for safety. They do not need their parents for entertainment. They don't even want our opinions on things most of the time. Witnessing them move into their own lives, while a natural part of life, there are times when it feels like a slow, painful tear in my heart.
The girls have their own high school lives, be it with Amara having worked at Micheal's for a 1 1/2 years, or them going out with friends and spending the night, or attending concerts from San Francisco to San Jose, or driving Bluey, (Amara's cute little electric car) all round the East Bay to find Sunny Angels or to get Boba. It is natural, it is good, it is joyous. And it is sad to see the end of this part of our lives shift. Just the other day, when I was in Albany, I stopped at Five Little Monkeys and walked around, feeling nostalgic. I ended up buying Havana a lego set, complete with having it wrapped. That she still loves legos and that I could still buy her a present like that was deeply satisfying. And sad. Because, my two small gems are not so small any longer.
During this high speed train towards adulthood, I have organically begun to step into my own space. I have found myself feeling more comfortable not just having the role their primary parent but as my own person, with passions, dreams and purpose. They are not the only ones with a divine purpose.
With such realizations, it seems my two small gems and I are on a parallel process of growth and individuation.
There are so many wonderful things about them being teenagers. We have traveled together to more distant locations, where the comforts of home are back at home and they have managed to not only deal with but thrive in far flung places. I have come to appreciate their decisions and input on matters. They are wise, thoughtful and smart. It has been smart of me to take their input and counsel at times. They have good hearts, care about the world and fairness for others and I am relieved that they will go out into the world as good citizens of this sacred planet.
As we move towards the end of the childhood road (but to be honest, I am very grateful to have two more years with Havana), this blog's end of the road will be part of that process. I have been writing less and less. I have documented so many aspects of their lives, shared much about myself in case they need to go back and learn about me (if/when I am not here), tried to capture all the adventures and milestones of their youth. I hope I did them justice. I will blog less and less over the next couple of years. I have much to catch up on for the past few months and will work on being more timely but as they grow, I am growing and this blog is feeling less and less the priority it once was.
But....we are not at the end of the road yet. So stay tuned for our past holiday experiences, our trip to 3 continents is February, Amara's trip to China and so much more.